10 Ways to Know He is a Marriage Material
Marriage is a lifelong relationship and therefore regards a lot of commitment and responsibilities. Since life expectancy rate is about 60 to 70 years, it means you would have to commit almost 40 years of your life to the one you choose to marry.
Talking about commitment, not everyone is ready to commit even a year of their life to someone. That being said, it becomes even more important to do the necessary checks to see whether the man you’ve been dating is a marriage material. Ladies sometimes become blinded by love and try to neglect some basic clues that could help them make the right choices. Although some are able to notice unfavourable signals, they try to consoles themselves that things could change as they get married. Trust me, there is nothing like such change, as a habit grows, it becomes a character and that might hurt you in the future. So if he beats or treats you bad in during the relationship, never be fooled that things are going to change one day. The question now becomes how do I know he is a marriage material? This may sound a little complicated but it is very easy to look out for such qualities when you pay attention to details during the relationship process. If you are planning to enter into a relationship or already in, the following ten points can help you decide which type of man to go out for.
There is an adage that goes “a child who will buy a car in the future starts asking for the price when even young”. Juxtaposing it with marriage, a man who is a marriage material would always want to discuss issues relating to marriage with you. Does he talk about having a family a family with you, planning for the future, his dreams, the family size and other issues relating to marriage? If he never mentions marriage in your conversation, my lady you have to start thinking twice.
During the relationship stage, it is very important to involve your partner in decisions making especially those that have a long-term effect. This brings about some sense of belonging and importance. That apart you will be able to decide whether such decision would be beneficial as you get married and advice appropriately. So if he doesn’t involve you in such decision making, you can start thing twice.
Being respected means being regarded and that brings about dignity. The most demeaning thing is being with a man who doesn’t respect you and takes you for granted. If a man truly loves and want to spend the rest of his life with you, he will hold you in high esteem and show you the respect accorded a woman.
A true relationship is being there for one another when the need arises. It is one that sees both partners show compassion and a sense of companionship. As human, difficult times may come and therefore would need the affection of the ones we love. A man who is a marriage material would always be around for his woman in good or bad time. He would allocate much time to you than friends and be with you at his free time than any other place.
Marriage is not for kids, hence, a man who behaves like a kid is not worth even a relationship much more marriage. Sometimes maturity comes with age, but there are men who still behave as if they were teenagers, very playful and take nothing seriously. Entering into a relationship with someone who is not mentally matured means you have a long way to go. You need deal with all his toddler attitudes, his inconsistencies, inability to make decisions and lack of direction. A matured man knows how to take care of his woman; goal oriented, knows how to fix problems without complaints and sharing blames and shows empathy. He knows when to say what and even if you are a fault, finds a better way of approaching you.
Mistakes are bound to happen in a relationship and sometimes it is so dreadful and unforgivable. However, a man who is a marriage material will go through all the length to save a relationship which is on the verge of breaking whether it is his fault or yours. If a man wouldn’t let you go even after your gravest mistake, then trust me, you wouldn’t want to let such a person slip from your hands.
7. Not a nagger and tolerant
Women are normally considered as naggers but some men are worse off. So imagine two naggers being under the same roof, it is definitely going to be on fire. Never consider a man who nags, keeps reminding you of your mistakes and unforgiving. Rather go for a man who will accept you as you are and will accommodate all your nonsense. It is not easy though, but at least he should be tolerant so that you don’t end up fighting each day.
There is nothing best than being with an honest and trustworthy man. It makes you very secured and never would you be worried about last minute disappointment. Being with a trustworthy man frees your mind from all kinds of suspicions that he may be having other suitors. He is able to open up to you and keep you not in the dark on things happening in his life. Mr dear lady if you find such a guy, grab him all you can and you can thank me later.
There is more to more, no doubt, but you can spend your entire life with some who misuses money. To marry someone who can’t live with money for a day means you’ve signed a licence for poverty, not only for yourself but for future children. While dating, keep track of how he spends money likewise his savings habit. If he spends more than he saves, then trust me, he is not a marriage material.
Some people are indecisive and cannot take any major decision on their own instead rely on others. With this, they become the puppet of others and are controlled like robots. Such a man is not a type you can trust with your future as he can even leave you anytime.
The points above are just a few of what to look for to prove he is indeed a marriage material. There are many other tips you can check out for at the relationship stage before you think of committing yourself to marriage. However, always remember that there are rooms for improvement and sometimes given a little chance, some people can turn around. There are some men who fit in all the above but won’t necessarily be a good husband. Even if they will leave the decision of getting married to them and never force them if they happen not to be ready. There is nothing bad to also follow your heart and take that bold step even as he has some shortfalls.
Talking about commitment, not everyone is ready to commit even a year of their life to someone. That being said, it becomes even more important to do the necessary checks to see whether the man you’ve been dating is a marriage material. Ladies sometimes become blinded by love and try to neglect some basic clues that could help them make the right choices. Although some are able to notice unfavourable signals, they try to consoles themselves that things could change as they get married. Trust me, there is nothing like such change, as a habit grows, it becomes a character and that might hurt you in the future. So if he beats or treats you bad in during the relationship, never be fooled that things are going to change one day. The question now becomes how do I know he is a marriage material? This may sound a little complicated but it is very easy to look out for such qualities when you pay attention to details during the relationship process. If you are planning to enter into a relationship or already in, the following ten points can help you decide which type of man to go out for.
1. Does he talk about marriage?
There is an adage that goes “a child who will buy a car in the future starts asking for the price when even young”. Juxtaposing it with marriage, a man who is a marriage material would always want to discuss issues relating to marriage with you. Does he talk about having a family a family with you, planning for the future, his dreams, the family size and other issues relating to marriage? If he never mentions marriage in your conversation, my lady you have to start thinking twice.
2. Involve you in decision making
During the relationship stage, it is very important to involve your partner in decisions making especially those that have a long-term effect. This brings about some sense of belonging and importance. That apart you will be able to decide whether such decision would be beneficial as you get married and advice appropriately. So if he doesn’t involve you in such decision making, you can start thing twice.
3. Respects You
Being respected means being regarded and that brings about dignity. The most demeaning thing is being with a man who doesn’t respect you and takes you for granted. If a man truly loves and want to spend the rest of his life with you, he will hold you in high esteem and show you the respect accorded a woman.
4. Gives you attention and available when you need him
A true relationship is being there for one another when the need arises. It is one that sees both partners show compassion and a sense of companionship. As human, difficult times may come and therefore would need the affection of the ones we love. A man who is a marriage material would always be around for his woman in good or bad time. He would allocate much time to you than friends and be with you at his free time than any other place.
5. Shows maturity
Marriage is not for kids, hence, a man who behaves like a kid is not worth even a relationship much more marriage. Sometimes maturity comes with age, but there are men who still behave as if they were teenagers, very playful and take nothing seriously. Entering into a relationship with someone who is not mentally matured means you have a long way to go. You need deal with all his toddler attitudes, his inconsistencies, inability to make decisions and lack of direction. A matured man knows how to take care of his woman; goal oriented, knows how to fix problems without complaints and sharing blames and shows empathy. He knows when to say what and even if you are a fault, finds a better way of approaching you.
6. One who wouldn’t let you go no matter what
Mistakes are bound to happen in a relationship and sometimes it is so dreadful and unforgivable. However, a man who is a marriage material will go through all the length to save a relationship which is on the verge of breaking whether it is his fault or yours. If a man wouldn’t let you go even after your gravest mistake, then trust me, you wouldn’t want to let such a person slip from your hands.
7. Not a nagger and tolerant
Women are normally considered as naggers but some men are worse off. So imagine two naggers being under the same roof, it is definitely going to be on fire. Never consider a man who nags, keeps reminding you of your mistakes and unforgiving. Rather go for a man who will accept you as you are and will accommodate all your nonsense. It is not easy though, but at least he should be tolerant so that you don’t end up fighting each day.
8. Trustworthy
There is nothing best than being with an honest and trustworthy man. It makes you very secured and never would you be worried about last minute disappointment. Being with a trustworthy man frees your mind from all kinds of suspicions that he may be having other suitors. He is able to open up to you and keep you not in the dark on things happening in his life. Mr dear lady if you find such a guy, grab him all you can and you can thank me later.
9. How is he with money?
There is more to more, no doubt, but you can spend your entire life with some who misuses money. To marry someone who can’t live with money for a day means you’ve signed a licence for poverty, not only for yourself but for future children. While dating, keep track of how he spends money likewise his savings habit. If he spends more than he saves, then trust me, he is not a marriage material.
10. Is he able to make decisions for himself?
Some people are indecisive and cannot take any major decision on their own instead rely on others. With this, they become the puppet of others and are controlled like robots. Such a man is not a type you can trust with your future as he can even leave you anytime.
Conclusion
The points above are just a few of what to look for to prove he is indeed a marriage material. There are many other tips you can check out for at the relationship stage before you think of committing yourself to marriage. However, always remember that there are rooms for improvement and sometimes given a little chance, some people can turn around. There are some men who fit in all the above but won’t necessarily be a good husband. Even if they will leave the decision of getting married to them and never force them if they happen not to be ready. There is nothing bad to also follow your heart and take that bold step even as he has some shortfalls.
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